People who says or thinks that a relationship is all cotton candy and lollipop smiles are in for a rude awakening when they finally get into one. Love is not something beautiful. It’s an exaggeration of the good and the bad in life. What was okay becomes awesome while what was annoying became infinitely infuriating. Surprised? Don’t be. It’s equal exchange. For every thing received in ease another spiky object must be shoved down the back of our throat. This is what balances the world.
But why??!!! My grand theory is that because we take it for granted way too easily. If there were no arguments, pouts and nags, we would forget to appreciate the little things that elevates us to a state of ecstasy. Men and women are wired differently. IT’S SCIENCE, I PROMISE YOU!! On average, men connect front to back [parts of the brain] more strongly than women,” whereas “women have stronger connections left to right,” said study leader Ragini Verma, an associate professor of radiology at the University of Pennsylvania medical school. When it is dumbed down, it basically means that men process information differently than women.
What does this mean? It means that the motivational talks were lies, evil steaming lies. Men and women were not meant to have a “perfect” relationship. The differences that we have encourages arguments. Men have a higher capacity to focus and get tunnel vision while women are great multitaskers. Men does not have as many neural connectors connecting the emotion processors and the language processors. It is SOOO much harder to communicate how we really feel. Add to that the “code” that is propagated by all forms of male authority figures against expressing emotions. You know what i’m talking about.
Don’t get me wrong though. I’m not siding with the guys here. Men also can’t expect the ladies to take it easy on them. So if you’re looking for love, lace up those boxing gloves and smile while you throw those knock-out punches. Good luck peeps!